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schneefink ([personal profile] schneefink) wrote2016-03-22 06:30 pm

Still into hockey, but some days it's harder

Follow-up to my post from yesterday about quitting fandoms and hockey (rpf) in particular: there is yet another in a long list of shitty incidents. This time, an AHL prospect was charged with a revenge porn felony, and even though he was arrested and charged over a month ago the team let him keep playing until it became public on social media. UGH.

There were some good responses and comments on being a woman in hockey sports fandom on Twitter:
Hannah Stuart
@Puckologist
Jen LC
Megan Richardson
Sarah Connors
Sasky Stewart
Hockey Babbler
And not on Twitter:
"The NHL's problem with women", by Julie Di Caro
Women in hockey being heard, but not loud enough, by Scott Wheeler (Pension Plan Puppets)

One that feels unfortunately familiar:
m g: "Hockey has brought me a lot of fun and many friendships, but when I see the decisions made by @Puckologist @acciohockey @butyoucarlotta ... amongst many others, I know that's my future. That I'm just waiting for the scales to tip. For the negative to outweigh the positive."

Every time someone leaves the sports fandom feels lonelier/scarier afterwards. Fandom should not feel like a fight.

To sum up, Casey:
"To the women who stay and push back: thank you.
To the women who need a break: You deserve to feel safe & happy, not trapped."
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[personal profile] jae 2016-03-22 06:25 pm (UTC)(link)
If you do eventually get to that point, you could always quit men's hockey without quitting hockey altogether. Just a thought.

-J
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[personal profile] beatrice_otter 2016-03-25 06:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Man, that sucks.
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[personal profile] scintilla10 2016-03-26 02:57 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks for that round-up of responses; I hadn't seen all of them. I know what you mean; it's VERY hard to be a fan of hockey some days. ): *hugs*
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[personal profile] myrdschaem 2016-03-26 11:31 am (UTC)(link)
Late to this post and... yeah. basically. I saw it on twitter and feel like I should be angry that it is hawks fucking AGAIN but ugh. Just tired.

There's players I still love on that tea, foremost Hossa who is my favourite, but really, how could I go back? Looking at it leaving hockey fandom on the whole might be easier. I try to get more active with other pairings, but output is more sporadic and my writing is fizzling, as always.

On the other hand, there's of course the tempting idea of just ignoring the "minor" problems and just reading the fic. But honestly this is playing so much into hawks' narrative and they want people not to care about the shit off the ice and that alone is what stops me. Well, and the bitterness towards some fandom members and their ethics.

But... ugh. I wih I could stay, but hockey fandom makes it harder everyday. Maybe I will find a solution, but right now it sucks.
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[personal profile] myrdschaem 2016-03-29 06:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, and the fans that give me hope - subtlelikeseabrook, regressedpdo, raedances and others - are the reasonable ones and are also turning their back. Those are the "mainstream" fans I enjoyed the most and their approach to fandom. At least they turned out as good as I thought.

On the other hand, there's active, fanfic writing fans that want to stay put and kinda sour my experiences before through their conduct now.

(Sorry for taking so long to answer! and always complaining when I do!)
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[personal profile] myrdschaem 2016-03-31 04:36 pm (UTC)(link)
Argh, I didn't see this yet but ofc. Just another strike not to stay.

Idk how t is for you but I can feel myelf antsy for something? Another team or another fandom, but right now it's not really compelling to stay. I will probably watch Panthers in the playoffs I think now! The style is similar and I can see myself rooting for Lu getting his hard ware :D Also, chicago south, I guess, so some faces I know.