Still into hockey, but some days it's harder

[schneefink]

Follow-up to my post from yesterday about quitting fandoms and hockey (rpf) in particular: there is yet another in a long list of shitty incidents. This time, an AHL prospect was charged with a revenge porn felony, and even though he was arrested and charged over a month ago the team let him keep playing until it became public on social media. UGH.

There were some good responses and comments on being a woman in hockey sports fandom on Twitter:
Hannah Stuart
@Puckologist
Jen LC
Megan Richardson
Sarah Connors
Sasky Stewart
Hockey Babbler
And not on Twitter:
"The NHL's problem with women", by Julie Di Caro
Women in hockey being heard, but not loud enough, by Scott Wheeler (Pension Plan Puppets)

One that feels unfortunately familiar:
m g: "Hockey has brought me a lot of fun and many friendships, but when I see the decisions made by @Puckologist @acciohockey @butyoucarlotta ... amongst many others, I know that's my future. That I'm just waiting for the scales to tip. For the negative to outweigh the positive."

Every time someone leaves the sports fandom feels lonelier/scarier afterwards. Fandom should not feel like a fight.

To sum up, Casey:
"To the women who stay and push back: thank you.
To the women who need a break: You deserve to feel safe & happy, not trapped."

Comments

[jae]

If you do eventually get to that point, you could always quit men's hockey without quitting hockey altogether. Just a thought.

-J

[beatrice_otter]

Man, that sucks.

[scintilla10]

Thanks for that round-up of responses; I hadn't seen all of them. I know what you mean; it's VERY hard to be a fan of hockey some days. ): *hugs*

[myrdschaem]

Late to this post and... yeah. basically. I saw it on twitter and feel like I should be angry that it is hawks fucking AGAIN but ugh. Just tired.

There's players I still love on that tea, foremost Hossa who is my favourite, but really, how could I go back? Looking at it leaving hockey fandom on the whole might be easier. I try to get more active with other pairings, but output is more sporadic and my writing is fizzling, as always.

On the other hand, there's of course the tempting idea of just ignoring the "minor" problems and just reading the fic. But honestly this is playing so much into hawks' narrative and they want people not to care about the shit off the ice and that alone is what stops me. Well, and the bitterness towards some fandom members and their ethics.

But... ugh. I wih I could stay, but hockey fandom makes it harder everyday. Maybe I will find a solution, but right now it sucks.